The topic of fertility has been a higher priority lately. As you may know, I have a son who is now fourteen months, and my wife and I are looking to get pregnant with our second child. We have been trying now for about four months to get pregnant with no luck so far. I am a firm believer in giving your body what it needs to perform its natural biology and that God has a perfect time for this little miracle to take place. I have been reminded of God’s timing on many occasions in my life, and I am sure this will not be the last time.
By no means am I an expert in the area of fertility, make sure you consult the proper professional if you need one. I do have some ideas you can try and that has worked for us. I can tell you I am much more knowledgeable on how to increase male fertility than I am female fertility, but I have included some great information for you female nurses. Make sure you pass on the information you learn in this article to your husbands or significant other, and many of the ways you improve male fertility should help with increasing female fertility. So, let’s get down to business on the ways I am increasing my fertility and how you can too.
Increase testosterone levels - for males; this is important for making sure you get that feeling often enough and can keep things going in the bedroom. As my wife and I have learned if it is too soon and you try to have sex for the sake of frequency during the fertility window a male at my age (40) is unable to ejaculate enough to where it can do any good.
Ways to increase testosterone:
· Eat three Brazil nuts upon waking and before going to bed. This is to increase selenium. If you do not have a selenium deficiency, then you may get minimal results from this. I believe most people can benefit from little extra selenium in their diet.
· Eat two to three free-range eggs upon waking and before bed. The cholesterol in the eggs is needed to have healthy and mobile sperm.
· If you want to go the extra mile or are desperate, you can include some cold therapy. I have not chosen to take this step yet. In other words, doing cold showers or ice bath therapy. Please research this, as I am not an expert in this area.
Sperm Health- for men this would involve not wearing tight-fitting underwear during the fertility window since this can increase the temperature of the testes. Wear boxer shorts or something loose so the testes can regulate their temperature naturally instead of being forced to stay against the body.
Also, I would avoid riding a bike if you are a male during the fertility window since this can put pressure on the testes and keep them close to the body as well.
Minimize stress- hormonally the body is not going to want to bring a baby into the world if either parent is heavily stressed. Stress is a fertility killer, and you need to make sure you are using proper coping skills when dealing with stress in day to day life. I get it, stress is unavoidable, but you have control over how you handle it. Some stress is good for us as long as you know how to keep it in check. Sometimes you may need to talk this out with a professional. I see a counselor three or four times a year to talk about issues I am having. This allows you to talk about these issues and the counselor can also help you with coping mechanisms as well. Mindfulness and meditation practices can also help.
Make time – With the demands of day to day life and if you have small children at home it can be very difficult to find some alone time with your spouse to be intimate. You will have to make time and be intentional if you have small children. We find early mornings work best or when the little one takes a nap if I am off from work that day. Also, in the mornings we both seem to have more energy and this, in my opinion, does allow for better intimacy.
Have sex often – this one is similar to making time, but I want to mention you need to have intercourse at least every two to three days leading up to your ovulation day and a few days after. There are many apps and books that can help with determining when this day is for you. My wife measures her temp's first thing in the morning, and she uses an app on her phone to keep track of this.
Get proper sleep - sleep is very important for the regulation of your hormones, and it allows your body to reduce stress. When you get enough rest, your body will do so many things better than it would without proper sleep. I have many articles to help you sleep better. Check out the blog index here.
From a female's perspective - I had my wife chime in on her thoughts. She has read extensively on the topic. Besides resting well and eating nutritious food when you are trying to conceive (yes, it matters how you take care of yourself before conception, not only during the pregnancy), she mentioned taking a high-quality food based prenatal vitamin that does not contain soy.
Some other tips she mentioned is for females to get to know your cycles. How do you do this you may ask? By checking your basal body temperature at the same time every day. Usually first thing in the morning. Check your cervical fluid. Track your ovulation. You can do this by using the Kindara App. She has been using this app. on her phone for a couple of years now. It has a "knowledge base" tab for all things fertility. This app. was also very useful for avoiding pregnancy if you are choosing not to use birth control and do not want to get pregnant. It can take six to twelve months for your cycles to normalize after birth control according to my wife. Some studies are linking birth control to increased chances of cancer. So be careful with "the pill". It is not to be taken lightly.
Make sure your diet is free of hormone-disrupting "foods" as well. These include non-organic, unfermented soy, and processed foods to name a couple.
Let me know what has worked for you and your significant other. Please share so all nurses can benefit and be able to naturally conceive instead of through other unnatural or very expensive ways.
If you would like to know more about how my wife measures her fertility, please let me know in the comments or send me a message and I will ask her to write a guest post on the subject.
As always, I hope you have a healthy week and remember to prioritize your health before it has to be a priority.